Navigating Diabetes Without Shame: A Message for Young People Facing Criticism and Misunderstanding

Living with diabetes is already challenging—it demands daily effort, lifestyle changes, and emotional resilience. But when the people closest to us misunderstand our struggles, the emotional burden can feel even heavier.

It's Not Your Fault

First and foremost, let’s clear up a big misconception: Diabetes is not your fault. Whether you have Type 1, Type 2, or any other form, diabetes develops due to a combination of genetic, environmental, and lifestyle factors. Blaming yourself—or being blamed by others—doesn’t solve anything. Instead, it adds unnecessary guilt to an already difficult journey.

Why Do Family Members React This Way?

Sometimes, family members react with frustration, anger, or even hurtful words because they’re scared. They might not fully understand diabetes, and fear can often disguise itself as criticism. Parents, especially, may feel helpless when they can’t “fix” the problem for you. Unfortunately, their fear sometimes comes out as anger instead of support.

This doesn’t excuse hurtful behavior, but understanding where it might be coming from can help you respond with compassion instead of internalizing their words.

Your Numbers Are Just Information, Not Judgments

A blood sugar reading, whether it’s 182 or 82, is not a reflection of your worth as a person. It’s simply a piece of information—a tool to guide your next steps. Instead of seeing a high number as a failure, view it as an opportunity to ask, “What can I learn from this? Did I eat something I didn’t realize would spike my sugar? Was I stressed? Is it just one of those days where my body isn’t cooperating?”

Finding Support Beyond Family

If your family isn’t currently able to offer the support you need, know that you’re not alone. There are communities (like this one) filled with people who get it. Look for:

• Online Diabetes Support Groups: Safe spaces where you can share your struggles and wins.
• Local Diabetes Education Classes: These often provide group sessions where you can meet others your age.
• A Trusted Diabetes Educator or Diabetes Coach: Someone who can offer both practical advice and emotional support.

Start Small With Communication

If you feel ready, try to gently educate your family. Sometimes, they don’t know what you’re going through because no one has explained it to them in a way they can understand. You could say something like:
"When you criticize me for my blood sugar numbers, it makes me feel ashamed instead of motivated. I’m trying my best, and I’d love your support instead of blame."

Take Care of Your Mental Health

Diabetes and mental health are deeply connected. Stress, anxiety, and depression can all affect your blood sugar levels—and dealing with blame or shame from others can amplify these feelings.

• Journaling can help you process your emotions.
• Mindfulness or relaxation techniques can reduce stress.
• Therapy, if accessible, can provide a safe space to work through feelings of guilt or frustration.

You Are Not Alone

There’s a whole community here ready to remind you that you are strong, capable, and deserving of kindness—both from others and from yourself. Your diabetes does not define your worth, and one high blood sugar reading does not make you a failure.

If you’re struggling, reach out. Share your story. You deserve support, understanding, and compassion on this journey.

We’re here for you—every step of the way.